No, You Can’t Define Sobriety On Your Own Terms & Here’s Why

Alicia Gilbert
11 min readMay 5, 2019
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As a member of various online sober communities, I see more and more people attempting to define sobriety on their own terms as if this descriptor is somehow fluid. Peppered into my Facebook Newsfeed are various iterations of the following:

I identify as sober but I still drink a little here and there. I had a glass of wine at dinner last night, but I’m still

Alicia Gilbert

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